I am not a fan of parties.
Especially ones where I don’t know many of the other attendees. I have a hard time initiating conversations with people I don’t know super well, and on the flipside, I don’t really enjoy standing alone awkwardly while everyone else is socializing. I am terrible with small talk and if it’s too loud to hear anyone, what the hell is the point of talking? Honestly, I would prefer to be in my own space reading a book or writing a blog.
So, if you are anything like me, you might be interested in the following tips to survive parties you are obligated to attend:
Set a time limit. If I don’t know anyone at the party, I might just stay for an hour. It’s okay! Don’t feel guilty. If you are going to the party with other people, such as friends or a significant other, consider agreeing on a time to assess the situation to see if you want to leave or stay. This “agreement” can be challenging, but hopefully, the people you are going out with are willing to compromise.
Don’t worry so much about being awkward. If you don’t know the people who you are small talking with, who cares if you say something weird! Certain topics should probably remain off limits. But hopefully, most of us know which topics to avoid.
Get enough sleep the night before. Save your energy. You’ll need it.
Have fun getting ready for the party. That’s my favorite part! Pick out a nice outfit, do whatever grooming you want to do, and play your favorite music. If you look nice, you might feel better about going to a party.
If you don’t feel like talking, be a good listener. I am more interested in what other people have to say than hearing my own voice. People love a good listener. Nod your head, make eye contact, smile and ask questions.
Come up with a few conversation topics ahead of time. Not gonna lie…I do this. Some examples include weekend plans, travel plans, food, shopping, and entertainment.
Accept the fact that you won’t click with everyone you speak to. As an introvert, I seek deep connections. Truth be told, not everyone is going to be interesting. Not everyone is going to find you interesting. Accept it. Don’t take it personally.
Although parties can be hard for us introverts, the more you practice, the more confidence you’ll have. Good luck!