I am not trying to change the world or bash those who need to rant about their mother-in-law over a glass wine.
There are many rules and expectations we learn when it comes to love. From gender roles in a relationship to the age you should get married. Most of these guidelines point you to one goal, to reproduce.
In a relationship, many of your actions impact your partner. It’s like you are in this together or something. Your partner’s concerns become your concerns.
Systems that increase our visibility exist in our world so that people act in ways that fall in line with social norms. So when someone acts out of line (i.e., liking suggestive Instagram photos), they are exposed, and relationship issues may arise.
Haha surprise! Today, I’m keeping it light so all of you can recover from the heavy mess I made in my blog post from yesterday: Love Is a Labor: Nothing Worth Having Comes Easy.
We paint such a beautiful picture of love while undermining the struggle. Love comes at a considerable cost, and we should be prepared!
Love is the most irrational and beautiful thing we experience in this strange world of ours. To me, love is a force. It motivates us to act in ways that go against our own interests. I don’t mean this negatively. Instead of focusing solely on ourselves, we invite someone else in. We start to care about them, resulting in a less-selfish lifestyle.
In my humble opinion, 5-year plans are silly. As I grow older, I get to know myself better. I have a better understanding of what I want in life than I did 5 years ago, and I imagine that I will have an even better understand 5 years from now. We simply keep growing, and maybe that’s all we need to ask of ourselves.